Now it’s time to filter for your personal preferences. Are you attracted to this guy? Does he share your values? Do you enjoy his company? Is he smart and hard working?
Most importantly, do you feel secure in the way things are moving ahead, or are you wondering if he’s interested? A man who is interested in something real will want to keep things moving and spend time with you. If your intuition has you worried, he doesn’t make it through the filter.
Whoo-hoo, you’ve got a real prospect here! This is the best case scenario, obviously. If Adam doesn’t make it through the filter, you need to wait for the next interested guy and repeat the process. Avoid drama with the also-rans or the guys just trying to get in there.
You should expect no more of Adam than you can deliver yourself. Of course, he’ll presumably have his own filtering mechanism, however informal, and you’ll be getting feedback one way or the other.
Don’t get ahead of yourself. Let things progress organically. You should escalate emotionally, because for sure he will be escalating sexually. Calibrate your enthusiasm with his.
Lastly, throw all superficial dealbreakers out the window. I’ve heard many women express regret that they quit seeing a guy for something minor, like the way he folded two Kleenex into squares before going to sleep every night. Focus on what really matters.
So there you go, you’re on your way to a potentially lifelong relationship! You got your hero because you didn’t waste any of your valuable time with a zero.
What do you guys think? I’d love any and all constructive feedback.
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